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Hello and Welcome to my Marriage and Families Blog

My name is Holly Jo Martin and this is a college assignment blog on the topic of Marriage and Families.  I will be sharing insights, ideas, and principles I learn throughout the semester to help strengthen Marriages and Families.

Being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I believe the nature of marriage and families to be eternal.

"The eternal nature of our body and our spirit is a question often pondered by those who live in mortality. All people who will ever live on earth are members of a human family and are eternal children of God, our loving Heavenly Father. After birth and tasting of death in mortality, all will be resurrected because of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, the Only Begotten Son of God the Father. Depending on our individual obedience to the laws, ordinances, and commandments of God, each mortal can have the blessing of attaining eternal life; that is, returning to live in the presence of their Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus …

Treating In-Laws like Family, not Out-Laws

Every Parent's dream is to see their child grow up, find a wonderful person to marry, and have a successful union.  What they might not dream of, is the possible conflict that comes with adding a new family member (from a different family background) to a family with already established rules and expectations.  It is the parent's job to help this new family unit feel supported and loved as they learn to negotiate their relationships between both the families they were raised in.

"Wise parents, whose children have left to start their own families, realize their family role still continues, not in a realm of domination, control, regulation, supervision, or imposition, but in love, concern, and encouragement."(Harper 327)

Past Prophet of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Spencer W. Kimball, says there can be trouble in a new marriage if the couple doesn't learn how to "cleave unto" each other instead of their parents.  He gives 3 pieces of Adv…

United We Stand in Marriage, Families, Communites, the World, and with God

Humans are made to be united with each other.  United as families at birth, in marriage, in our communities, our world, and with God.  It is a natural desire and need, this belongingness with others.

 According to Psychologists Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary,"The 'belongingness hypothesis' states that people have a basic psychological need to feel closely connected to others, and that caring, affectionate bonds from close relationships are a major part of human behavior." (Selterman 2012)  This is why a person rarely feels satisfied in a state of singleness or isolation.  We need to be united with others. 

First counselor of the Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Henry B. Eyring, said it is a divinely given desire from God,  "He placed in men and women from the beginning a desire to be joined together as man and wife forever to dwell in families in a perfect, righteous union." (Eyring 1)

"...the creation of man and woman, un…

Sex as God Intended It

Sex can be a hard subject for couples to talk about.  This could have started when we were young.  Our parents may have treated the subject as taboo. Maybe you werelike me, where you received a book with Birds and Bees on the cover when you turned 12, being told it would answer all your questions.  You may have gotten your parent's non-verbal hint, "don't ask me anything embarrassing, please."  

So, we learned about sex from the Hollywood movies, T.V. shows, and the wrong kind of magazines. Learning about sex is paramount to our marital bliss, but the source of that knowledge is even more important.  


In the 1960 book called, You and Your Marriage, President Hugh B. Brown spoke of the importance of learning about sex:

“Thousands of young people come to the marriage altar almost illiterate insofar as this basic and fundamental function is concerned. The sex instinct is not something which we need to fear or be ashamed of. It is God-given a…